Friends - Near and Far - and those that have pissed me off

So lately I have been a little down in the dumps. Maybe it is because I don't have many close friends here. I have my friend M, who has been a lifesaver. Not only is she a great mommy, but she is a great friend. She lets me vent, bitch, or just share happy news with her. It's so nice to have someone that can vent to me, but also let me vent to her. Not all my friends are that way. M & her family have become extended family to Jeff & me. We watch their 1 year old about once a week and both her kids call us Aunt & Uncle. It's so nice. We do have two nephews of our own, but it is still nice to be able to share our love with another family as well. 

So why my post about friends? Maybe because I wish I had more in this area. Friends that I could go to dinner with, have a drink with, just sit & chat, scrapbook, or whatever :) I love the fact that I have so many "friends" that I have never met! I love the fact that they feel like I have known them forever! I know that the day I do meet any of them will be a great day. Many of these wonderful ladies are in the adoption process or have already adopted. They are a great source of strength, encouragement, and love. I think about my "boardies" all the time. I have a few friends that have children that I still keep in touch with. One is C & the other is J. Both had difficulties TTC, C finally was able to get pregnant and J adopted a newborn. Both of these ladies have been a saving grace! They keep me sane, keep me smiling, & keep me focused...They know who they are and I Love them both! I cannot wait to do some traveling so that I can finally meet them both face-to-face!

Recently a new "secret" group was started on Facebook for those from Ivillage who had graduated from the TTC boards. Someone "accidentally" invited me and then removed me because "I am not a parent" and let me tell you...THAT HURT. It was just another reminder that Jeff & I have not become parents yet. I was part of the Ivillage community for a long time, supporting & encouraging these women & all of a sudden I am no longer allowed to keep tabs on them (since most don't use Ivillage anymore). It really angered me. I felt like I was being shunned for suffering from infertility. It doesn't bother me to see pregnant women..I've dealt with it a long time. I just wish that people would be more considerate. I would love to be a part of this "secret" group, not only to keep up with everyone who has growing babies but also to keep up with those who are TTC again, or even to seek advice when I do become pregnant. 

I am not really bitter. I am just upset & sometimes it bothers me when people dwell on the fact that I am not yet a mom. I will be a mom, just in God's time. I am leaving it to Him and that is all we can do. 

So please...remember to treat your infertile friends with respect. If you are afraid of saying something that may hurt your friend, or if it would have hurt you when you were still TTC, don't say it. 

Now for my infertile friends...just a little something to make you smile. You might be an infertile if....(click here) 

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